2 Samuel 18:33 And the king was much moved, and went up to the chamber over the gate, and wept: and as he went, thus he said, O my son Absalom, my son, my son Absalom! would God I had died for thee, O Absalom, my son, my son!
Based upon Absalom’s decisions in life that are given to us from the Word of God we can safely determine that there was one powerful reason that Absalom wrongly believed he was untouchable and that is that he grew up with a golden spoon in his mouth. Being the son of a king with servants at every beck and call; Absalom was used to getting exactly what he wanted in life with very little opposition. Besides, who is going to tell the King’s son, NO? But one does not have to be born with a golden spoon in his mouth to grow up wrongly believing he is untouchable. Many poor children grow up the same as Absalom; not with the riches and privileges, but with parents who refuse to correct their children. No matter what the parent’s social status is, no child should grow up without learning restraint.
Now the exact evidence of Absalom never learning restraint is found in three decisions of his life recorded for us in God’s Word. The first is that he TOOK the life of his brother Amnon because of Amnon’s sin with their sister. What Amnon did was very wrong, but we do well to remember that vengeance is of the Lord. The second act is that when Joab would not respond to Absalom’s request, Absalom BURNED Joab’s barley field. And with that Joab immediately responded to Absalom’s request to see the King; but who BURNS a man’s property? A man that has no restraint and that is used to getting his own way. The third piece of evidence that the King’s son never learned restraint is that he STOLE the hearts of the men of Israel. Absalom attempted to take the Kingdom right out from under the feet of his daddy. How PRESUMPTUOUS! People with no restraint believe themselves to be special and above the law. People with no restraint care not who it is that is involved. The King was Absalom’s own daddy. People with no restraint do not care who is involved as long as they get what they think belongs to them. Yeah, Absalom was a King’s son. Yeah, Absalom was the best looking man in all of Israel (2Samuel 14:25). But instead of using his privilege to bless others with and to serve God his privilege became his peril. It was his pretty hair that got caught in a tree hanging him in the air long enough so Joab could snuff his life out with three darts in the heart. Absalom’s lack of restraint is a good lesson for all of us; without restraint, we will never learn to give, but to be TAKERS.